Daphneleah Schneider is a Rightness Release Mentor, Speaker, Reiki Master, Writer, and Model from Los Angeles, California, where she is creating specialized talks and workshops focused on wellness and healing from Rightness.

Can you describe the moment or reasoning, leading up to deciding to write about abandoning/healing the need to be “right”?

(DS): Before I realized what exactly this book was going to be about, I started writing about some aspects of the origin of humans. I wrote extensively on several topics, and then I realized the work needed to be divided. One division led to sharing my personal journey of healing. I have done a tremendous amount of work to heal from Rightness, and listen to others, and have compassion. The book came about because I wanted to share my experience.

What would you say is your favorite part of writing your book, “Releasing Rightness: How Love Heals the Need to be Right”

(DS): I love the magic of it. I love how sometimes the worst words are written, and a good idea is there; with work and effort, the words transform into something good that makes sense.

I love clarifying my thoughts, which then helps me clarify my life beliefs. I love the honesty of it all. I love how good it feels to express myself creatively.

Your blog mentions your emphasis on divinity in your life.  Does the concept of divinity inspire your writing as well? If so, how?

(DS): In my world, a cigar is never just a cigar; all things are divine. Everything in the universe is the divine, which I experience as love. Some things have a higher love frequency than others, but it’s all love. Creativity is divinely inspired. From coloring to creating a masterpiece, it’s all the divine expressing itself through us. Each one of us is divinity incarnate and a form of love. Some people are better at living it than others. And that is part of the human experience. 

The divine inspires my writing in that it moves through me when I write. Even though my writing has a childlike quality to it, the value of the information and my experience help others. Living connected with Divinity is ultimately how I healed from Rightness. The Divine is love and the most potent force. It heals us and connects us to all things.

Could you please walk us through your writing process?

(DS): I ask for help and guidance from the muses and the divine before I begin. I use a timer and work for 15 minutes at a time, or I set the alarm for an hour and work for that duration. 

I usually type and type and then go back and edit. I can write for 2-4 hours a day.

When I have something, I send it to an editor ( a dear friend or my daughter) to help it make sense and give me direction. 

What piece of advice would you offer to women authors?

(DS): Do it! Your story is valuable, and we want it and need it. If you have an idea for a book, it means the idea seeks to live outside of your mind. It needs to be in the world. Others have asked for it, and you heard the call. Take all the time you need and do it. I started with fifteen minutes a day. It was grueling at first. I felt a great deal of shame taking that much time for myself, but I persevered, and it eventually became easier. Now, I consider myself a writer.

Writing daily makes you a writer. You can do it! 

Much of Daphneleah’s time is currently dedicated to completing her first nonfiction book.  A tale declaring how being wrong saved her life. This account of Rightness chronicles how she left the drama behind and entered the world of good living. She shares her loves and joys along with the pain she experienced in her life journey that allowed her to  awaken and love herself and others. She shares how science and love correlate and how we grow by availing ourselves to both. (via https://www.daphneleah.com/)

I write. I always excelled at writing. In a different version of my life, I stayed in the challenging school system where I started, was pushed to excel, and found a mentor who guided me into a writing career before I graduated. You already know my name.

In this version of my life, I spent the last three years of high school in a small town school where the guidance counselor apologized because they didn’t have a decent English teacher. I was fifteen and thought she was weird. I had fun and life took an entirely different path with many moves, careers, and relationships. Life’s been interesting – and it’s all material.

In 2005 I was paid to revise a screenplay. In 2007 I self-published my first novel and I’ve been editing and helping others self-publish since 2013. My short stories, novels, and screenplays have been finalists or honorable mentions in Kindle Book Awards, Emerging Screenwriters, Sacramento International Film Festival, Amazon Breakout Novel Awards, Writer’s Digest International Self-Publishing Book Awards, Writer’s Digest Short Story Writing Competition, and the Saturday Evening Post Great American Fiction Contest. An art book I edited and designed was runner up in the San Francisco Book Festival Photography/Art category.

With the book I’ve just launched, I’m focusing on doing a better, more sustained effort at marketing. That has included figuring out the unifying factors in my novels: They’re stories with strong, propulsive plots and engaging characters – with substance to fuel conversation.

What inspires your writing themes (either as a whole or for each book)?

(SM): While writing a gripping story with characters that stay with you is the structure, I do slide in themes that fuel conversation, too. The inspiration always comes from real life one way or another, and resilience is always a factor. My family and I have had a variety of experiences; I’ve worked with at-risk adults, children, and teens in different ways; and people talk to me. I’ve had a stranger give me their life story in a fifteen-minute bus ride. 

All for One: Love, War, & Ghosts – the first draft was completed in 1981, when Vietnam vets were experiencing a lot of problems and a lack of support. I didn’t recognize a positive rejection from an NYC agent as encouragement to work on it. When I got back to it decades later, I wanted to check on some details – and had trouble finding any Vietnam vets who wanted to talk. Knowing the problems didn’t just go away with time made me decide to have my characters age before the scary stuff begins. 

Running Away: Maggie’s Story – when I got my first check for writing in 2005 and decided to take writing seriously, her issues were more pressing. I’d worked with many girls who’d been molested but either didn’t think anyone would believe them or they’d misbehaved in anger so much that no one would believe them. The story is told in her voice and her mother’s to show how communication got broken and mends. 

Peg’s Story: Detours is her mother’s story. Readers asked for it because the mom mentioned she’d run away at the same age and her parents thought she was dead for ten years. I did some meandering in my twenties and thought her story would be like that, until the character took over at the bus station and shocked me. I put it away, embarrassed that someone might think it was about me. Then I saw an interview program with women who were putting their lives together after being trafficked, and I realized that was her story. 

Tough Times started life as Michael Dolan McCarthy, which was a terrible title for a book geared for teenage boys. Michael’s just a regular kid whose life falls apart one piece at a time, but he toughs it out and takes responsibility for his young white siblings – the kind of character my “tough” students would understand. Making race the reason they’ve never met his mom’s parents was just one more layer and brings in family communication issues again.

Alice is a quite short novel. A group in Vancouver puts on a 3-Day Novel Contest every year. I entered the weekend with an idea of a situation with the bank, because that sort of thing was common at that point, and the three main characters in mind. Once Jack, Alice’s father, showed up, the two of them started dictating the dialogue in the voices of Helen Hunt and Jeff Bridges. They had me laughing out loud and the initial draft was done by the end of the weekend. Sometimes the characters take over in a fun way. Yet it’s been described as a modern day ethics story.

What was your favorite part of writing All for One: Love, War & Ghosts?

(SM): That’s tough. I enjoy the whole process, even revisions on revisions, braiding the plots together. And the little bits where character show through – like when the bad guy flashes on a moment from his teen years. But overall? It’s a bit mean spirited, but I may have gotten the most satisfaction out of the gossip’s faint.

How would you compare your screenwriting process versus books?

(SM): I tend to be very sparing in my description when I’m writing books – I usually stick to details that are essential to understand something else. That makes converting one of my books into the screenplay relatively easy. You give the essential description before the dialogue and let the producer and director add the rest. In both cases, the characters and the story have got to work.

Your educational background covers a wide array of writing capabilities, from research and grant proposals to fiction and nonfiction. Which would you say is your preferred writing vice and why?

(SM): There is great satisfaction when a non-fiction project makes a substantial difference in lives. However, I’ve been making up stories since I was a little kid, so storytelling is me having fun. I grew up in a house full of adults – I was the oops seven years younger than the after-thought who was seven years younger than the family. The after thought’s train was set up in the attic. I was not allowed to run it, but he trusted me to play with all the little people and buildings. And that’s just one example. My mom and I made up my bedtime stories, I helped write our class plays in elementary school, and I researched my first novel the summer I turned ten…

What piece of advice would you give to women aspiring to become authors?

(SM): Love the process – write, share, revise, repeat. If you love the process, you will produce your best work. If you love the process, success doesn’t hinge on numbers.

Sheri McGuinn is an award-winning writer of fiction with strong, propulsive plots and engaging characters that provide substance to fuel conversation. With Master’s degrees in Education and Professional Writing, she also writes and edits for hire and helps people through the self-publishing process.

Anne Marina Pellicciotto is a multi talented and multidisciplined individual. Not only a talented writer, but also the President of SeeChange Consulting, a woman-owned Certified Business Enterprise as well as a returned Peace Corps Volunteer in Mexico. Her diverse lived experiences fuel her life philosophies and methodologies. 

What inspired you to start writing your book, Strings Attached: A Memoir of Marriage, Music and Escape?

(AMP): Just freed, at 27, from the marriage to my music teacher predator, a relationship that began when I was 15, I started writing the secret scandalous story at as a novel. I suppose I was attempting, in those early years, to out myself – and him – but in a safe way. I got encouraging feedback from the continuing ed class at Georgetown: “Feels like you’re right there, inside that girl’s skin.” “Verisimilitude,” the teacher complimented. I was new to writing, so that felt good. But they also said my story was not too believable – the age difference, the fact that he was married and I (a girl named Eve) was the babysitter. I put the manuscript aside and got on with my career as a systems analyst – and the journey to discover who the heck, apart from my music teacher predator ex, I was. Those were some dangerous years of experimentation that also involved a lot of therapy and medication.

Two decades later, at 50, in the aftermath of my mother’s terrible cancer death, retriggered by ghosts of the past, I unearthed the novel manuscript – along with a shoebox of well-preserved memorabilia from those undercover teenage years. With Mom gone – she’s a key complex character in my transgressive coming-of-age story – I was free to write the book as truth. Over the intervening years – as if preparing for this moment – I had consumed memoirs – by Mary Karr and Joyce Meynard and Vivian Gornick, to name a few. I joined a Bethesda Writer’s Center program to complete your book project in a year. I had no idea what a journey I had ahead of me.

A neon posterboard of My Big Beautiful Book Goals stares me at the face each day from the wall above my desk. The first and foremost goal on the list: To write for the creative, cathartic joy of in hopes of touching and inspiring others. Now that I’ve completed the fifth, maybe sixth rewrite of my manuscript and I begin the harrowing process of birthing my book baby into the world, I try to remember: this book is no longer about me. We are all wounded in some way. The readers of Strings Attached are yearning for permission – an invitation – to release themselves from unearned shame and live their lives out of the shadows, fully, powerfully, joyfully.

As the President of SeeChange LLC, what advice can you give to both aspiring female authors and entrepreneurs alike?

(AMP): Haha, I started my own company because, well, I got fired from every job I’d ever been in. I was not one to take to rules and structures and restrictions – especially since I’d been confined in a box at such a young age by my predator music teacher.

The problem with the corporate world – especially the burgeoning IT world .com world of the 90s and 2000s – they could handle creativity – unconventionality – out-of-the box thinking – especially from a woman. Though they sure did pay it lip-service. I was tired of having my ideas received with a blank stare.

So, at 33 I took a MS in Organization and Human Development – with the aim to bring a more creative, humanistic perspective to the organizational improvement. My practicum project became the basis of holistic approach I would bring my clients. Upon graduation, in 2001, I launch SeeChange and have been going strong ever since. My advice? Never allow your creativity to be squelched. If you feel that constriction – be in work or in relationship – get out. It’s not always easy going it on your own – you must weather a lot of ups and downs and oftentimes on your own. What’s more, the independent life may not be quite as lucrative as working for the man. But your creative freedom is priceless.

How would you describe your writing process?

(AMP): I am pretty disciplined – as an indy for so many years, I have learned to be – and I believe it’s part of my nature. I begin my day (as early as I can – and I’m not a morning person) with a routine of yoga to get the energy and breath flowing. Then, with a cup of ginger turmeric tea, I sit down to my Morning Pages (a la Julia Cameron, The Right to Write and The Artist’s Way). In my journal, I let the muse go where she wants – oftentimes it’s meditative, like sights, sounds and smell entering my sense doors. Sometimes, it’s boring to-do lists or lists of accomplishments. But oftentimes the journaling becomes the writing and I find I’ve written passages or scenes from my current project into my composition notebook. I flag those with Postits and then, when I sit down to my computer, I merely need to transcribe. I have a note taped to my desk that says: “Just type – no conditions.” Because, sometimes. I put such pressure on myself to accomplish something – and my muse doesn’t like that. She freezes. And the writing day is a total struggle. So, I have to keep reminding myself – back to my #1 goal for my memoir – “to write for the creative, cathartic joy of it.” Oh, yeah, to protect my muse inside our creative bubble, I keep my phone and Internet powered off until I am done, around 1 or 2 pm. It’s blissful.

Your philosophy of head and heart, science and art is admirable! How do you incorporate those principles in both your life and writing?

(AMP): Great question. I do need to update my website because my philosophy has expanded to include the body: head, heart and body.

Creativity, I once read (Stephen Nachmanovitch, Freeplay) is an act of making decisions. As humans, as writers, we are constantly making choices about what’s in, what’s out – what characters motivations are – where we show in scene and where we tell in summary – and at a larger lever, where to direct our creative energy – into what project or essay or poem. Whether and when to take a pause.

These choices can’t be made solely from the head – using a tool I learned in business school called the Decision Matrix. Sure, logic has its place; we need good information to good make decisions. But the heart and gut must be involved. The answers come to these other two brains. From sitting in stillness, chanting mantra, moving the body in yoga. By planting seeds – asking questions – tapping into our intuition – that’s when the most creative answers and ideas arise.

Lately, I’ve struggling with some important life decision – feeling the effects of so much dis-harmony and uncertainty in our country and our world. I have a Postit note stuck to my mirror that stares me in the face each morning: What’s in harmony with the Divine Design for my life?

The answer has been emerging, little by little – by paying attention, I feel the answer either as tightness – for me in my lumbar spine, shoulders, or jaw. Or, when an idea finally resonates, a truth becomes clear, I feel relaxation, calmness, feet more grounded on the earth, and a little bit of excitement in my belly.

I use my journal to translate the sensations into words. Sometimes that works. As long as I don’t jump from the feeling to the page too quick. Developing this heart-mind-body intuition is a daily practice of making space for the truth to arise – and be there to witness it. This practice has been essential to my writing.

It seems you have lived many lives, from consulting, to the Peace Corps, and into your holistic healing journey. How have these experiences shaped your perspective as a writer?

(AMP): Yes, I love exploring new places, people and lives. I am an experiential learner. Living new experiences gives me both material about which to write – and the volition to do so.

For instance, I am embarking on a new book project based on my last four madcap years living the nomad life. Crooked Spine Chronicles is the story about how, practically crippled with severe scoliosis and in suicide-level pain, I defy doctors order to fuse my spine with rods and bolts and, instead, take to the road. I will not let them to immobilize me. Washington, DC to Santa FE, Durango to Escalante, Sedona, Joshua Tree, LA – I encounter shaman, yogis, PTs, body workers, psychotherapists, tarot readers, psychedelic guides and, lovers. Turns out the universe is conspiring to save me!

All along my journey, I posted stories to my blog of ups and downs, twists and turns and lessons-learned. Now, I am turning those stories into a book with the aim to help others discover their inner power to heal – and to live their most vital, adventurous and pain-free lives. Oh, yes, that Peace Corps memoir is stuffed in shoebox somewhere waiting for the harmony moment to be reworked. It even has a title: Dance the Huapango: Madcap Misadventures of a Mid-Career Volunteer South of the Border. 

Please connect with me via my blog at www.seechangeconsulting.com/blog or befriend me on social media and let’s dialogue. Writing needn’t be such an isolating process. Thanks to WNBA-SF, I feel part of a vibrant and creative community.