Shanti Ariker is a writer by night and a lawyer by day. The start of her memoir appears in How We Change, the 2024 San Francisco Writer’s Foundation Writing Contest Anthology. Her work has been published in The Thieving Magpie, On Being Jewish Now substack and Simpsonistas Vol. 3.
What is your memoir about? What inspired you to write it?
(SA): My memoir, THE LAW OF RETURN, is a study in resiliency in the face of conflict – both the one I witnessed in my time as a soldier in the IDF and the New York Times-covered custody battles between my parents, identified in the newspapers as ‘a religious government computer specialist’ and a ‘Revolutionary Communist,’ that left me, an Orthodox Jewish girl from Northern California, searching for belonging that led to my joining the IDF.
I was inspired to write it when I traveled back to Israel with my family for the first time after being away for 25 years. Seeing some of the same places brought it all to the surface for me, and I realized that I wanted to share my stories about what I had done and seen, what Israel and being Jewish mean to me and how I learned resilience and gained a sense of belonging from my time there.
In your bio, you describe yourself as a tech lawyer by day, writer by night. Does your background in law empower you in your work?
(SA): I do think that being a lawyer, especially one that is so in tune with the needs of a business, like an in-house lawyer is, is empowering. That has allowed me to feel like I can go beyond what I was taught in law school. And creative writing does break the mold of writing like a lawyer – cutting things down to the essence for the business folks and getting to the main point. I had to unlearn a lot of that in my creative writing – to be more emotional and evocative than I would ever be in my business writing.
What is something you have learned about yourself when working on the memoir?
(SA): Writing a memoir takes a lot of soul searching. I had to dredge up memories I had tried to forget and think about them in detail. Some things were especially hard to write and think about. I had a few good cries. Some of the funny things I recalled didn’t lend themselves to the plot and had to be cut. The process of writing about parts of my past that I hadn’t explored deeply made me have to think about how I had acted, what happened and whether I should have done some things differently. The whole process took a long time and was very emotional.
Were there any obstacles you had while writing your memoir?
(SA): First, It was hard emotionally and I had to take breaks. Second, my mother got sick and died – during her sickness, I stopped writing. I just couldn’t write honestly about our relationship while she was suffering and I was trying to be there for her, so I put it aside. Third, I had never written a book before and trying to figure out the right structure was the hardest part. I had to rewrite it several times before it clicked with my current braided timeline structure.
Are there any other writing projects you have planned beyond this memoir?
(SA): I started a newsletter on LinkedIn that provides advice to in-house lawyers called “In-House Lawyering and Beyond.” I think that could become a book down the road. I am also working on short stories and have challenged myself to write one a month for the entire year. So far, I have written three stories this year. It’s hard with everything else I do, but it has been rewarding as well.
And lastly, do you have any advice for aspiring writers?
(SA): For years, I said that I wanted to be a writer but I didn’t have time. I have learned that you have to make the time – to learn about craft, to read, to sit in the chair and write. It’s easier than you think – just set a timer for 15 minutes and write about anything, then start the rewriting process after a few sessions. Soon, you’ll have a short story.
Now, I can’t imagine a time where I won’t be writing. It stopped feeling like a chore and now it’s fun.
Shanti Ariker can be found at shantiariker.com.
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